When women feel self-love alive in their bodies – meaning they can taste, touch, hear, smell and feel love for themselves as a tangible force- they cannot tolerate violence or abuse. 

This creates a ripple effect in their families. In their lineages. In their communities. It impacts the nervous systems around them… when children feel their caretaker’s nervous systems filled with self-love, they learn how to model that in their own bodies.

When partners feel this coursing through our blood and bones and we kiss or touch, any physical connection, they can feel it. 

We no longer meet violence with more violence. We out-create it with love. Love for ourselves. For the planet. For our families and communities.

Somatic self-love can’t stay contained within one person; it radiates outwards, creating a powerful ripple effect. Here’s how:

1. Families and Lineages: When a woman stands firm in her somatic self-love, it reverberates through her family. It becomes a legacy, passed down through generations, breaking the chains of abuse and setting a new standard for relationships.
2. Communities: women empowered by somatic self-love create a community that thrives. It becomes a place where respect, understanding, and compassion are the norms, not the exceptions.
3. Nervous System Impact: Our nervous systems are incredibly attuned to the emotions and energies around us. When children are surrounded by caretakers whose nervous systems are infused with the felt sense of self-love, they naturally learn to model that in their own bodies. This early imprinting shapes their future relationships and interactions.
4. Physical Connections: Every touch, every kiss, every intimate moment is transformed when it’s rooted in self-love. Partners can feel this energy coursing through our veins, and it becomes a shared experience. It’s a love that’s palpable, and it reshapes the dynamics of relationships.
5. Ending the Cycle of Violence: When faced with violence, the response isn’t more violence. Instead, it’s a powerful, unwavering love. Love for oneself, for the planet, for families, and for communities. This love becomes the tool to out-create and dismantle the structures of violence.

The ripple effect of embodied self-love is monumental. It’s not just about individual healing; it’s about societal transformation. By fostering a deep sense of somatic self love within, we can collectively end gender-based violence and create a world where every individual is cherished, respected, and safe.

Embodied Self-Love: A Breathwork Ritual for Transformation

Preparation

Set aside some time for this ritual where you won’t be disturbed. Find a quiet and comfortable space where you can sit or lie down. You might want to light a candle, burn some incense, or play some calming music to create a peaceful atmosphere.

Step 1: Grounding

Begin the ritual by grounding yourself in your physical surroundings. Notice the sensation of the floor or chair beneath you, the temperature of the air, the sounds around you. This helps to bring you fully into the present moment.

Step 2: Conscious Breathing

Start to focus on your breath. Feel the air entering and leaving your body, the rise and fall of your chest, the rhythm of your breathing. This mindful awareness of your breath is the first step towards connecting with your body on a deeper level.

Step 3: Cultivating Self-Love

With each inhale, imagine you are breathing in love and kindness for yourself. With each exhale, imagine releasing any negative thoughts or feelings about yourself. Visualize this love as a tangible force, filling your body with warmth and light.

Step 4: Embodying Self-Love

Now, try to engage all your senses in this process. Can you taste the sweetness of self-love? Can you feel its warmth spreading throughout your body? Can you hear its gentle whisper, telling you that you are worthy and loved? Can you see its light, dispelling the shadows of self-doubt and criticism? Can you smell its fragrance, as comforting and familiar as a favorite perfume?

Step 5: Radiating Self-Love

Once you feel filled with this tangible, embodied self-love, imagine it radiating outwards from you. Visualize it reaching your family, healing old wounds and setting a new standard for love and respect. See it spreading to your community, promoting understanding and compassion. Imagine it coursing through your physical connections, transforming every touch and kiss with its powerful energy.

Step 6: Ending the Cycle of Violence

Finally, visualize this self-love confronting any violence or abuse in your life. See it standing firm, an unyielding wall of love and respect. Imagine this love not only protecting you, but also reaching out to the source of that violence, inviting transformation and healing.

Step 7: Closing the Ritual

End the ritual by taking a few moments to sit in silence, letting the images and feelings of the ritual settle within you. When you’re ready, slowly bring your awareness back to your surroundings and gently move your body.

This breathwork ritual is a powerful tool for fostering somatic self-love. It’s not just a personal practice; it’s a revolution. By cultivating and radiating self-love, we can create a ripple effect that transforms not just our lives, but also our families, our communities, and our society.